When Pat Benatar said, “Love is a battlefield” she wasn’t lying, was she?

 

 

When a relationship begins to take a turn for the worst, it throws a monkey wrench in your whole life.

At this very moment, are you thinking about whether you should stay in your relationship or cut your losses by leaving now? Whatever decision you make could be life-changing. So you have questions, fears, doubts. Lots of them…

 

“Am I doing the right thing?”

“What if he changes?”

“Is this relationship healthy?”

Forget it enough to get over it, remember it enough so it doesn’t happen again.
Unknown

Because this isn’t just a decision about which pair of shoes to wear to a party or which purse better compliments your dress and brings out your eyes.

This is a decision that could possibly affect the quality of the rest of your life. So whether you’re simply disenchanted with your partner, or can’t seem to get on the same page with him, or even worse … this is something that you absolutely need to get right.

The truth is, you learn a little more about yourself every time someone says good-bye.
R. M. Drake

Picture being in a relationship with your college sweetheart – together for nine years and married for four. But for the past two years, you’ve had a nagging feeling, as though your marriage wasn’t healthy. Or at least as healthy as you once thought it was. On paper, everything looks great. Your husband is handsome, makes great money in his career and you’ve just purchased your first home together. You have two furbabies that you adore but YOU just don’t feel loved or cherished. With a lot of reflection, journaling and prayer, you begin to see toxic patterns and realize that your husband has narcissist tendencies. And you tolerated his behavior because you enjoy your shared lifestyle and social standing. But each day, you become more and more aware of how toxic your marriage is.

And this is just one, very mild example. There are so many women out there silently dealing with much, much worse.

Well, you wouldn’t be reading this if you didn’t already know this is way easier said than done. Making the decision to leave a relationship can be fraught with stress and fear

Fear that you’ll make the wrong decision…

Fear of being alone…

Fear that you won’t ever recover from this heartbreak…

Fear that you’ll never find someone new or that it’ll take forever…

How will my partner react? What will my family and friends say? What if I never, ever get over this?

BUT I DON’T WANT TO START OVER!!!

These are the questions and thoughts that plague our minds when we’re faced with a potential breakup.

I say “potential” because you may decide not to leave, and that is a valid choice. But whichever road you ultimately choose…

You want a fresh start…

You want a way forward that you can feel good about…

You want a return to normalcy…

You want to feel like yourself again…

You want to move on with your life one way or the other!

I know, it’s stressful. But before you eat that pint of Haagen-Daz or book a flight to No Man’s Land, I’ve got some good news! You don’t have to suffer alone!

Let’s fast forward about a year and a half after the scenario I described above. You’re deliriously happy and madly in love with yourself. It wasn’t always an easy road but you know that taking the time to ask yourself the tough questions and get the clarity you needed was instrumental in helping you understand your own intuition.

I can help you get from where you are now – confused, stressed, and lonely with no idea what to do next … To where you want to be – you’re happier and more empowered. You’re at peace….whether you decided to stay or leave.

If you aren’t sure if you should keep fighting for this relationship. If you can’t shake the feeling that your partner may not be “the one”, let me help you take an objective look at the whole situation.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve gone through this and wished that I had someone to guide me through such a sensitive, life-changing decision. This is why I created Split Decision – a 30 day personalized coaching program just for you — so you never have to go through this ordeal alone.

The healer you have been looking for is your own courage to know and love yourself completely.
Yung Pueblo

I'm Ready To Make A Decision Once And For All!

IMPORTANT!

This program is for you if you can’t decide once and for all whether to stay or to go. I am a woman first and a coach second. As a woman, I love human connection. Whether it is a romantic relationship, a friendship or a business partnership, I wholeheartedly believe in the transformative power of connecting to another human soul.  As a coach, my number one priority is that everyone I partner with is happy, healthy and whole…..whether alone or in a relationship.

I never, ever, never, try to convince or sway anyone to leave their partner or stay with their partner. The decision is YOURS and I am here to support you.

During this 4 week program, I work with you one on one through weekly calls. The program includes some soul-searching homework, check-ins text messages, recommended resources, some juicy bonuses and of course, my non-judgmental listening ear with no agenda — other than to help guide you through this process.
Week One
This session is all about reminding you of who you are and what you want & need from a relationship. Getting back to the essence of YOU is essential towards moving forward. There are more “WHO” questions sprinkled throughout the other sections.
Week Two
The next session gets into the nitty-gritty of what’s going on in your relationship and helping you to identify whether or not the behaviors are conducive to your overall well being. This is where things might get a little uncomfortable but hang in there. There is a method to the madness.
Week Three
The final session of this program helps you to create an action plan to do one of two things.
Week Four
Exit the relationship gracefully, with as little drama as possible.

OR

Stay in the relationship and find ways to maintain your identity. If you decide to stay, you will still have to do the work to resolve or accept whatever made you question the relationship in the first place.

Know that one day your pain will become your cure.
Rumi

Remember, there is no judgment, no shame, and no guilt. Throughout this journey, you will be guided by a combination of your heart, your head and your instincts.  After you’ve completed the WHO and the WHAT sections, you will most likely be closer to determining your relationship’s fate.

You’ll discover:

  • Your true values and their role in your relationship
  • How to take emotions out of the equation and determine if the relationship serves your whole well-being
  • How to avoid rebound
  • How to identify valuable lessons that you can use in future relationships
  • Clarity about whether or not the relationship is worth fighting for
  • You’ll also get a copy of “The Goodbye Guide”

You’ll also have access to me via email and text (in case you have a vulnerable moment and need a power boost to get you through it). You’ll get empowering exercises every week so that you can implement and integrate what we’ve talked about. And then you’ll get my best resources for further reading.

 

You get all of this for $497 $397

I’m Ready to Figure This Out and Make Ish Happen, Coach Von!

Questions? Schedule a 15-minute discovery call with me and tell me what’s going on with you. Love doesn’t have to be a battlefield 🙂

Von, let’s connect!
Whatever purifies you is the correct road.
Rumi