When we hear the words “intimate” or “intimacy”, we almost always think of a physical connection. We imagine a couple who is aligned sexually…..perhaps both of their love languages is physical touch. We imagine couples finishing each other’s sentences or laughing at inside jokes that only they understand. But intimacy isn’t limited to romantic relationships. Some people describe it as chemistry while others describe it as being on the same wavelength but true and authentic intimacy is sharing energy with another human being. 

You can have raw intimacy with a best friend or sibling. In some cases, best friends know you more intimately than a partner. They know your past, your secrets, your intentions, your experiences, you fears, and your dreams. In some rare situations, you can even connect with a stranger and feel more vulnerability with them than you do with people you’ve known for years. 

In essence, mutual intimacy is allowing someone to know, understand and love the raw, unfiltered, organic you while you also get to know, understand and love them.

Here are some of my favorite quotes about intimacy:

  • “Self-love….the most delicate intimacy” -Unknown
  • “True intimacy is a state in which nothing exists between two people; no space; no inhibitions and no lies.” -Ranata Suzuki
  • “To have someone understand your mind is a different kind of intimacy” – Unknown
  • “I will only let you touch me, if your hands are so full of intention, that every brush of your palms feels like you writing a novel on my skin” – AzraT. Braille
  • “They slipped briskly into an intimacy from which they never recovered” – F. Scott Fitzgerald
  • “Intimacy transcends the physical. It is a feeling of closeness that isn’t about proximity, but of belonging. It is a beautiful emotional space in which two become one.” -Steve Maraboli
  • “Secrecy is the enemy of intimacy. Every healthy relationship is built on a foundation of honesty and trust.” – Dave Willis
  • “Intimacy is not purely physical; it’s the act of connecting with someone so deeply, you feel like you can see into their soul”. -Unknown
  • “The secret is to find someone who engages you deeply, to form a connection that goes further than desire and lust.  It’s not enough to covet only a face or body, true chemistry begins with the intellect and heart.” -Beau Taplin
  • “There’s so much intimacy in understanding. Someone who doesn’t understand you is not going to know how to love you because they don’t know who you are” – Unknown
  • “My greatest moment of intimacy, was not the evening we took all our clothes off. But it was when you saw me at my most difficult state.  Like how you witnessed the most unlovable parts of me. As I slowly unraveled each imperfection in front of you like a scar. And despite all of this, you loved me harder anyway.” – Conee Berdera
  • “The most intimate thing we can do is allow people we love most to see us at our worst. At our lowest. At our lowest. At our weakest. True happiness happens when nothing is perfect” – Amy Harmon